not what I was expecting... but I'll take it!

so we had both visits with the Developmental Pedi. She is FAB. took plenty of time to talk and address our concerns. She spent quite a while with Andy too..

once she was done with Andy's testing, she told us:

• he intelligence scores were "significantly higher than normal" - his "quirky" behavior and lack of social skills can be attributed to the fact that he can't relate to his classmates.
  
• His speech/developmental delays and disconnection are/were attributed to PTSD (aka "the Fire").
  
• She saw NO red flags for ASD - of course he wasn't stimming while he was there
  
• What she did see was ADD/ADHD
  
• since Todd has ADD, each of our children is at least 5x more likely to have it than the average child.
  

so, for now, we'll get him the 504 at school to make accommodations for him. we'll give it a month or so, then see how he is doing in school and decide if we want to use medication or not. Todd's BFF and his DW are both pharmacists, so we have a call in to them for their opinion on the different med options. If we go the drug route, I am leaning toward the patch. we'd have more control.

TOTALLY not what I was expecting, but good news in any event... who'd think ADD/ADHD was good news! But I think it is an overall better prospect for life. she asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up and why. He told her he wanted to be a family doctor and she said his explanation sounded like an essay from a med school application. crap.. better start saving for med school!